This is a kind of college and life related topic (yawn!) and this is something i feel i should tell everyone. Because i have repeated this too a lot of people
Now one of the biggest enemies which we face in college life which is even worse than abstinence and attendance is....rumours, gossip, chit chat etc etc. Spreading bad news about the person without the person knowing.
Now there are 2 types of Rumours namely
1.Lies
and 2. Exaggeration
Either people make up a total lie about a person either because they hate the person (Remember how Brad pitt spread a rumour that Rachel was a hermaphrode in Friends) or just for the lolz. You know.... To make the day more fun
Some cases they'll be acting like private detectives on cocaine. Add a few unrelated clues and come with a total pointless diagnosis. Like...."They both are wearing the same colour tops, they talked to eachother for *checking stopwatch* for 6.9 seconds. Aha! They had sex! Makes no sense right? Welcome to the world! Saying that 2 people had sex is everyones favourite depressing conclusion.
One scenario is when the person tells a secret to a friend and tells not to tell anyone. We aaall know what happens after thaaaat......
What's the magic (or black magic) of rumours are...you cant escape from it. Nomatter however you are they will spread something bad about you. For sure! If you do something they say that you're crazy and if you dont do anything theyll say you are boring. Some girls actually don't want to go out or talk to guys on the fear that the public will spread something bad about them. Soooo I dont get it. If everyone starts spreading a rumour that the girl is boring will she put a deadpool mask and start doing cartwheels in the middle of the road?!
Actually I dont blame the girls because for all the foreign readers who don't know (incase there are any) there is a retarded practice in India in which before a girl gets married some random relative from the groom side calls one of her classmates and they "investigate" about her. They ask "What kind of girl is she?"
If shes your friend I'm sure you'll want to make her sound like the coolest girl on earth. "Ya!! She damn fun! Shes so good at sports! She the life of the full group! Whenever all of us go out she makes it so awesome..." No No No No! Do not do that! Big mistake!
What you have to do is...describe her like shes a cardboard box. No! You shouldn't say "Shes fun to get into occasionally!". I mean you should describe her as boooring as possible. You know "Oh ya. Her... She doesnt talk much. Doesnt talk at all to boys. She doesnt go out at all. Raarely when she has to she goes out (like when the box flies out of the window). Just goes to college and back. Ya shes a good girl". This is what we call as Homely! I honestly dont even know if theres a word like that in the dictionary!
Oh and if you're a boy. First you've got to give an act like you don't know her "Who? Dhivya? My class? Hmmm...yaaa. Now i remember. I thiiink ive eeen her once or twice in these few years.". You shouldn't say "Obviously i know her! Shes sitting next to me right now! Want to talk to her?
Sooo let me get this right....You are going to judge a person based on the lies and exadurations spread by people who don't know her?! What the hell?! I thought I was dumb but this is a whole new level
If someone comes to me and says "Ya. The girl you are going to marry doesnt go out much. Doesnt talk to anyone..." My first reaction would be "Why? What happened to her? Is she paralysed? Or in a coma?"
Guys for us its not a problem. People will be like "I heard about him - His dad owns a company, he goes a lot,cuts class and he stays in the ground half the time". Girls relative will be like : ..............."Dad owns a company did u say?" Oh and also they inquire whether you drink or smoke and obviously we going to lie about that.
Now you can say "Kaushik! Chiiiiiill. This is just a phase in college. No big deal" Actually no! They still spread rumours after they group. Except the gossip will be boring as f*ck! Stuff like..."I heard that he bought this much land but only sold this much share...." At that point I just wish that one of my relatives will get into an affair so that the news gets more interesting.
The reason i felt that i have to share this is....people when they join college come not knowing about this and they hear this runour about themselves and they get hurt and confused. Some will do something even more dumb that is go and ask the person "Did you spread this rumour about me? I heard a rumour that you spread this rumour about me! Did you?!" And thats how a gang fight starts! Dude! Thats such a waste of time! Obviously hes going to lie! Go for a movie or something instead of wasting your time doing this.
You knows what's even worse than that. atleast the guys go and confront them. What some girls do is.....they hear that they spread a news and so they abruptly stop talking to her and give her the looks. The other girl will see that and think "Why isnt she talking to me and looking at me like that? Why should i talk first? Im not talking too!" and they wont talk for some 6 years and maaaybe before her marriage theyll start talking. So atleast that was a waste of time....this is a waste of years!
People will finally realise that they can life not giving a regard of what people say! When? Some 2 days before graduation when it's too late. So its best we realise it sooner. Its fun when you think about it. People spending their evening talking about us. It means our life is more interesting than theirs. Cool na?
Just think gossip is like Donald trumps presidential reign - We all hate it but we just got to hold our noses and live our lifes not giving a shit about it!
Now one of the biggest enemies which we face in college life which is even worse than abstinence and attendance is....rumours, gossip, chit chat etc etc. Spreading bad news about the person without the person knowing.
Now there are 2 types of Rumours namely
1.Lies
and 2. Exaggeration
Either people make up a total lie about a person either because they hate the person (Remember how Brad pitt spread a rumour that Rachel was a hermaphrode in Friends) or just for the lolz. You know.... To make the day more fun
Some cases they'll be acting like private detectives on cocaine. Add a few unrelated clues and come with a total pointless diagnosis. Like...."They both are wearing the same colour tops, they talked to eachother for *checking stopwatch* for 6.9 seconds. Aha! They had sex! Makes no sense right? Welcome to the world! Saying that 2 people had sex is everyones favourite depressing conclusion.
One scenario is when the person tells a secret to a friend and tells not to tell anyone. We aaall know what happens after thaaaat......
What's the magic (or black magic) of rumours are...you cant escape from it. Nomatter however you are they will spread something bad about you. For sure! If you do something they say that you're crazy and if you dont do anything theyll say you are boring. Some girls actually don't want to go out or talk to guys on the fear that the public will spread something bad about them. Soooo I dont get it. If everyone starts spreading a rumour that the girl is boring will she put a deadpool mask and start doing cartwheels in the middle of the road?!
Actually I dont blame the girls because for all the foreign readers who don't know (incase there are any) there is a retarded practice in India in which before a girl gets married some random relative from the groom side calls one of her classmates and they "investigate" about her. They ask "What kind of girl is she?"
If shes your friend I'm sure you'll want to make her sound like the coolest girl on earth. "Ya!! She damn fun! Shes so good at sports! She the life of the full group! Whenever all of us go out she makes it so awesome..." No No No No! Do not do that! Big mistake!
What you have to do is...describe her like shes a cardboard box. No! You shouldn't say "Shes fun to get into occasionally!". I mean you should describe her as boooring as possible. You know "Oh ya. Her... She doesnt talk much. Doesnt talk at all to boys. She doesnt go out at all. Raarely when she has to she goes out (like when the box flies out of the window). Just goes to college and back. Ya shes a good girl". This is what we call as Homely! I honestly dont even know if theres a word like that in the dictionary!
Oh and if you're a boy. First you've got to give an act like you don't know her "Who? Dhivya? My class? Hmmm...yaaa. Now i remember. I thiiink ive eeen her once or twice in these few years.". You shouldn't say "Obviously i know her! Shes sitting next to me right now! Want to talk to her?
Sooo let me get this right....You are going to judge a person based on the lies and exadurations spread by people who don't know her?! What the hell?! I thought I was dumb but this is a whole new level
If someone comes to me and says "Ya. The girl you are going to marry doesnt go out much. Doesnt talk to anyone..." My first reaction would be "Why? What happened to her? Is she paralysed? Or in a coma?"
Guys for us its not a problem. People will be like "I heard about him - His dad owns a company, he goes a lot,cuts class and he stays in the ground half the time". Girls relative will be like : ..............."Dad owns a company did u say?" Oh and also they inquire whether you drink or smoke and obviously we going to lie about that.
Now you can say "Kaushik! Chiiiiiill. This is just a phase in college. No big deal" Actually no! They still spread rumours after they group. Except the gossip will be boring as f*ck! Stuff like..."I heard that he bought this much land but only sold this much share...." At that point I just wish that one of my relatives will get into an affair so that the news gets more interesting.
The reason i felt that i have to share this is....people when they join college come not knowing about this and they hear this runour about themselves and they get hurt and confused. Some will do something even more dumb that is go and ask the person "Did you spread this rumour about me? I heard a rumour that you spread this rumour about me! Did you?!" And thats how a gang fight starts! Dude! Thats such a waste of time! Obviously hes going to lie! Go for a movie or something instead of wasting your time doing this.
You knows what's even worse than that. atleast the guys go and confront them. What some girls do is.....they hear that they spread a news and so they abruptly stop talking to her and give her the looks. The other girl will see that and think "Why isnt she talking to me and looking at me like that? Why should i talk first? Im not talking too!" and they wont talk for some 6 years and maaaybe before her marriage theyll start talking. So atleast that was a waste of time....this is a waste of years!
People will finally realise that they can life not giving a regard of what people say! When? Some 2 days before graduation when it's too late. So its best we realise it sooner. Its fun when you think about it. People spending their evening talking about us. It means our life is more interesting than theirs. Cool na?
Just think gossip is like Donald trumps presidential reign - We all hate it but we just got to hold our noses and live our lifes not giving a shit about it!
