Now when I told people that I was going to an article regarding depression. People were very skeptical. People felt I didn't have the er .... qualifications for the Job. I get it. I mean just like whenever you go for a haircut you naturally go to the guy who has the perfect long and coloured hair. Not the bald guy. Same thing. People would want to listen to a talk about depression from a person who went to severe suicidal state depression and escaped and not me who has had a reputation for being a kind of positive person. Well I've been honest. I've been through my bad phases and also been an observer. So this is my personal view which can be different your experiences but I'm saying what I personally feel.
(Photography by Sasha Arun. Damn good isn't it?)
Now hold on. When I say depression you guys come to the extreme conclusions. The depression which causes people to get admitted in hospital or attempt suicide. It can be anything. A bad mood. A really bad thought. Just consider all of these evil spawns of depression.
Now we all know these are caused from the thought in our heads and I call it the black monster. The black monster which whispers in your ear. It can be self doubt. It can be sorrow. It can be anything. Infact you can think that the more you are depressed the more it grows. So people who have these extreme depressions have to overcome this huuuuge black monster. So we have to kill it before it grows becomes Godzilla size and becomes more difficult to slay it. (Man! I can going to burn all my black shirts after this article)
Have you seen in some shows or movies when the character is in a hypnotised trance and just slowly walks towards the edge of the cliff and dispite his friends shouting but he'll just walk towards it because hes that hypnotised. That's wat I feel is like a picturization of the black monster. There is this sad comfort zone in the panic and we even though we know we have to snap out of it. We don't
What is usually the next scene in those movies. The hero's friends come and snap him out of the trance. They'll slap him or they'll give him and antidote or the heroine will kiss him ( *sigh* if only it was that simple). My point....the main thing is we have to snap him out of the depressive trance before it's too late and he does something to himself. Now how do we do it? Depends on the person. Some people are able to overcome it with their friends or their family or religion or self discovery. And there are some amazing people who are able to snap out of it by themselves by some strong thought or motivation in their mind which is highly admirable/ insanely awesome.
For those people who got out of depression they may have a few battle scars from the battles of their demons and it may haunt them sometimes but the main thing is that they won! They defeated the black monster and they should be proud of themselves!
You know what's the most pissing of thing people do when you are opening to them "Hey. I know exactly how you feel. Happened to me also"
Wait what? No you dont! You don't know exactly how I feel. I didn't even finish saying!
This is not something you can compare. This is not trading cards for God sake!
Guy 1: I got 78 percent depression with 4 depressed WhatsApp statuses
Guy 2: I got 82 percent depression plus 2 suicide wrist cuts. I win!
Urgh!
What I mean is. The same circumstances may have happened to a person but it affects them on a total different level. Some breakups will break a person into half whearas some breakups will barely affect some people. Some people would have got abused as a child but they wouldn't have minded. Whearas some people would have lost their cycle and it would have destroyed them on the inside. We can't be sitting and comparing flashbacks. Everyone is different in their own way and affected in totally different aspects.
Some idiots will be like "dude you should get over it"
Me: "......you don't say"
Another difficult factor is that the black monster cannot be identified by plain sight. Some people maybe just walking around all glum and you'll think that he's depressed for sure. But then you'll realise that's how he always acts. Some people may be smiling all the time but the truth is they will have such a heavy feeling on the inside. And they just don't want to let people know. It's like a mask with a smiling face on it. To hide all that he feels. A very sad example is Robin Williams.
What? Oh? My point? Oh I'm supposed to tell how to overcome depression. They key to defeating the black monster? That changes for everyone. Some people want to let it their feelings. Some people don't want to. Some people distract with their passions..some people want some time off. That's for you and the people who care for you to figure out
So if ever feel that your friend is in depression. Just be there for him. Be that cool sidekick in his story of how he defeated his black monster.
There are different ways to defeat it but the main thing is...there is a way! There is always a way! And we will definitely ..*loading gun*.... Overcome it
*Bang*
Now hold on. When I say depression you guys come to the extreme conclusions. The depression which causes people to get admitted in hospital or attempt suicide. It can be anything. A bad mood. A really bad thought. Just consider all of these evil spawns of depression.
Now we all know these are caused from the thought in our heads and I call it the black monster. The black monster which whispers in your ear. It can be self doubt. It can be sorrow. It can be anything. Infact you can think that the more you are depressed the more it grows. So people who have these extreme depressions have to overcome this huuuuge black monster. So we have to kill it before it grows becomes Godzilla size and becomes more difficult to slay it. (Man! I can going to burn all my black shirts after this article)
Have you seen in some shows or movies when the character is in a hypnotised trance and just slowly walks towards the edge of the cliff and dispite his friends shouting but he'll just walk towards it because hes that hypnotised. That's wat I feel is like a picturization of the black monster. There is this sad comfort zone in the panic and we even though we know we have to snap out of it. We don't
What is usually the next scene in those movies. The hero's friends come and snap him out of the trance. They'll slap him or they'll give him and antidote or the heroine will kiss him ( *sigh* if only it was that simple). My point....the main thing is we have to snap him out of the depressive trance before it's too late and he does something to himself. Now how do we do it? Depends on the person. Some people are able to overcome it with their friends or their family or religion or self discovery. And there are some amazing people who are able to snap out of it by themselves by some strong thought or motivation in their mind which is highly admirable/ insanely awesome.
For those people who got out of depression they may have a few battle scars from the battles of their demons and it may haunt them sometimes but the main thing is that they won! They defeated the black monster and they should be proud of themselves!
You know what's the most pissing of thing people do when you are opening to them "Hey. I know exactly how you feel. Happened to me also"
Wait what? No you dont! You don't know exactly how I feel. I didn't even finish saying!
This is not something you can compare. This is not trading cards for God sake!
Guy 1: I got 78 percent depression with 4 depressed WhatsApp statuses
Guy 2: I got 82 percent depression plus 2 suicide wrist cuts. I win!
Urgh!
What I mean is. The same circumstances may have happened to a person but it affects them on a total different level. Some breakups will break a person into half whearas some breakups will barely affect some people. Some people would have got abused as a child but they wouldn't have minded. Whearas some people would have lost their cycle and it would have destroyed them on the inside. We can't be sitting and comparing flashbacks. Everyone is different in their own way and affected in totally different aspects.
Some idiots will be like "dude you should get over it"
Me: "......you don't say"
Another difficult factor is that the black monster cannot be identified by plain sight. Some people maybe just walking around all glum and you'll think that he's depressed for sure. But then you'll realise that's how he always acts. Some people may be smiling all the time but the truth is they will have such a heavy feeling on the inside. And they just don't want to let people know. It's like a mask with a smiling face on it. To hide all that he feels. A very sad example is Robin Williams.
What? Oh? My point? Oh I'm supposed to tell how to overcome depression. They key to defeating the black monster? That changes for everyone. Some people want to let it their feelings. Some people don't want to. Some people distract with their passions..some people want some time off. That's for you and the people who care for you to figure out
So if ever feel that your friend is in depression. Just be there for him. Be that cool sidekick in his story of how he defeated his black monster.
There are different ways to defeat it but the main thing is...there is a way! There is always a way! And we will definitely ..*loading gun*.... Overcome it
*Bang*
